It is very common to have fights and disagreements with your partner. Sometimes, it is also found to be healthy to disagree with your partner, as it gives both of you a chance to know each other’s point of views. Fights have also united people, as it makes them miss each other. However, there are a few things we may speak in anger when we are in conflict. While it is normal to say a few harsh statements, there are few things you should never ever utter to your partner. Thiruvalluvar said, “தீயினாற் சுட்டபுண் உள்ளாறும் ஆறாதே நாவினாற் சுட்ட வடு.” This means that even a fire injury will get cured, but words spoken in anger will stay forever. On that note, here are 6 things you should never say to your partner!
1) “It is not a big deal. Don’t be so sensitive!”
This statement often leads to belittling your partner’s emotions. It will make them feel like they are robbed of their agency to have an opinion, or feel a certain way. It is invalidating and lacks empathy. This statement is capable of creating a kind of disconnect with your partner. If your partner takes something to their heart, then the issue is probably something that matters to them. Instead of saying this statement, you could say, “I can see that this is disturbing you, but I am not able to understand why.” This will help continue the conversation, and might actually sought the problem, rather than aggravate it.