More importantly, is a daughter wrong in having confronted and revolted against her father every time he behaved inappropriately? Was she wrong in calling the police for security and lodging a complaint against him? For protecting her mother and sister from his wrath when they lacked the courage to do so. Or does she become a cause of shame to the family or a disrespectful young girl for having raised her voice against her father? This is the sorry state of women in this country even in 2017.
Quite a few men and their families still feel that they own their wives, daughters-in-law, and daughters. That they have the right to dictate their lives and that women are bound to listen to them. That a woman’s family is always bound to listen to their son-in-law. Ohh and the Indian man’s ego (not all men) has no dead end.
Don’t men as husbands, brothers, fathers etc. need to have blind trust in women in their lives. For a man who has two daughters, should he not have all the more reasons to bring them up as independent women, where nothing in life can stop them and that probably his future sons-in-law could also meet out such behavior on his daughters? Couldn’t there be much more ways to solve a problem than to resort to abusive behavior?
Women still feel the need to stay back home for family, children, culture, money, love and many more reasons. When will each woman in this country (probably not the younger generation) learn to be self-independent, who’ll command the respect that she deserves? When will she feel free enough to take her own decisions and act upon it without seeking approval?
By writing all this, I don’t take away any of the love, comfort, luxuries, education, basic necessities, anything at all that my father provided us with even in difficult times. And beyond what he could actually afford all our lives, until six months back. The above violence is spread over a period of 20 years with his wife. But is this enough? Shouldn’t he have always loved and respected the three women in his life?
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