4. She knows to be herself and doesn’t act: She is comfortable in her own skin, refuses to participate in the drama flying thick around. She gives out considerate practical advice to people who are finding it difficult, doesn’t overdo it, is not domineering, doesn’t impose on anybody. Sometimes she seems like such an old soul in the house. She realises and accepts that the world is not fair, she knows it’s not perfect, she knows how it can hurt certain type of people, how vulnerable they are, how cruel it can be to people who aren’t equipped by their nature to respond in the same way.