Ever felt that urge to punch some sense into a man’s head because he thought he was “complimenting” you? We all have those moments where we internally kill someone brutally because doing so in reality would have major consequences. For women who are better off without judgments and remarks and for men who need to learn how to compliment a woman the right way, here are some examples.
“You look Sexy”:
Really? Like that is the first thing you could tell me in the first five minutes of our conversation? Tell me I look beautiful. Tell me that I have a nice smile. Don’t take the creepy sex predator path to flatter me.
“You have a great job, lucky you”
Lucky me that I could get a great job being a girl? Lucky me because I have a great job being me? My career has nothing to do with luck. I didn’t get anywhere because I got lucky. My talent doesn’t walk hand in hand with luck.
“You drive better than most girls do”
What is that supposed to mean? Are you telling me that I am not a woman? Or are you telling me that you find it shocking because I can drive pretty well being a woman? I need to know if you are insulting me or the whole of womanhood. Neither of it is cool.
“You look better without makeup”
Gee, thanks. I didn’t ask you to boost my self-confidence. I wear makeup because I want to and I like it. I am not trying to impress you with my contoured face.
”I love that you don’t party too much”
Is that your reverse psychology technique to tell me to party harder? I don’t party for the sake of it. And how much do you think too much is? I know my limits and I also know that I don’t want you to set restrictions for me.
Next time you want to compliment an independent woman, know what you are saying!