We tend to make mistakes when we are young, our priorities, maturity, understanding, experience- everything is limited with our age. Love in your teens or early 20s can be tricky, it’s impulsive and in some unfortunate cases, doesn’t last very long. But a failed marriage is certainly not indicative of your ability to have a beautiful sustainable relationship. Adopting a different approach while looking for a partner might come with a different outcome. Here are some steps to follow when you are looking at settling down the second time around:
Taking Time: Rushing into a relationship is never right. Taking a sufficient amount of time to know one another before committing to a lifelong relationship is crucial. While it’s impossible to learn everything about a person, spending time with your significant other can help you get a balance on your relationship with him. Getting to know temperaments, history, future plans, family etc help you picture your life together better.
Stages in love: The first stage is falling deeply madly and truly in love. Believe me, this is the easiest and most natural thing to happen when you meet someone. This when matures, goes to the next level which is admiration and respect. When you notice simple things that he does that make you want to respect him more than love. There is always a rough patch in every couple’s relationship; misunderstandings, expectations etc tend to get the better of us. If you cross this stage with more understanding in each other, then you are ready for the long haul.
Forgiveness: No individual is perfect, we all come with our flaws. Difference of opinion is inevitable too. Two adults will certainly have contrasting opinions, agreeing to disagree is best. Small annoyances, fights etc should never be taken to the next day. Sleeping over it and then understanding why small issues can hamper your beautiful life will make love win. Learn to forgive and pay a blind eye to issues that do not require either of yours attention.
The language of love: Like one’s opinions, one’s way of expressing love is also different from another. If you’re expressive with romantic words, he might do more with his gestures. Every couple is unique, flowers and chocolates don’t solve fights in every household. Also, a human being cannot read minds, so if you want to have dinner at your favourite place, let him know in a more obvious way. This will help you create a more frank environment and the next time, he too will know what brings a big smile to your face.