I have no complaints about my sex life with my husband and I can’t understand why I want to have sex with my boss. The fact that he’s almost my age and has achieved so much professionally is what makes me attracted to him. As it is a creative line of work, we work late nights and are often alone together. I have a feeling that both, me and my boss are on the same page and there is an unsaid tension between us.
I’m stuck in a situation where on one side, I just want to give in to my attraction and on the flip side worry about the consequences. Also, I like my job and wouldn’t want to compromise on that either. I understand that there is a moral obligation to my marriage and taking a step in this direction will mean infidelity, I am however not worried about people’s judgment. In simple words, what matters to me is my marriage and my career. I don’t want to cheat on my husband, by I can’t stop thinking about ‘him’. How do I control my feelings?
Here is the answer from our Sex-pert:
First of all, you’re not the only person in the world who fantasizes about her boss. Stop feeling so guilty about a sin you haven’t committed. Yes, there are millions of women and men in the world who get sexually attracted to others for their intellect – they’re called Sapiosexual! However, though you haven’t done anything physically yet, try keeping your thoughts in control when around him! It’s okay to have these thoughts but going on and trying to make it real, is where the infidelity lies. Looks like you have a very strong conscience and if you end up on bed with him, you will never be able to forgive yourself. Though might sound sound clichéd, try bringing the spark back in to your sex life with your husband. Even though we think it’s all good, a great holiday, short weekend getaway will help you invest your thoughts in your husband. It will pass! You won’t feel attracted to him too long!