Tomorrow is the D-day and I’m excited, nervous, ecstatic yet confused. I know it’s a step that every girl takes in her life; to accept and love a new family like her own. While everyone has been telling me as to how I must act, react and be responsible as a wife, I know that your son does not expect me to be anything else but me. Yes, your son, the one you love unconditionally, the one that you would do anything for, the one that shocked and surprised you when he brought me home and the one who is my entire world and universe from now on.
So, in this letter I want to tell you how happy I am that I found a soulmate who is honest, understanding, kind and affectionate; and it is all thanks to you. After we tie the knot tomorrow, it is not just him and me who are bound by matrimony, but also the families, also you and me.
Since we are in a world where women are already breaking stereotypes, let us begin this relationship the 21st century way. Let us not be any more like the prototype mother in law and daughter in law; it’s our lives, we have the choice to make it as wonderful as we like.
I am not here to compete, I know what you mean to him and what he means to you too. I have been brought up in a home where love, truthfulness and a progressive mind were inculcated in me from the beginning. I promise that is all I will bring in to this home of ours as well. I don’t wish to take anyone’s place in this house, I hope to make a place of my own. You are his mother, and now mine too and I respect your word, your experience and your principles.
I propose we be friends, have a relationship like no other. At the end of the day, we are two independent women, we can choose to have a relationship that doesn’t need to fall into any category. We have definitely a lot in common already, after all we thoroughly love the same man. We can be friends, sharing our life stories, our passions, our plans and our thoughts. We can be mother and daughter, confide in each other, laugh and cry with each other. I could be a sister to you, you could tell me what you like and don’t like, how you created this beautiful home, how you brought up your sensible, honest and smart children.
I know the thought of sharing your son with someone new is a thought that scares you, but trust me that I will try my best to give him only happiness. After all I love him , and that love is unconditional. Trust me when I tell you I will take care of something, trust me when I say I’m not wrong, trust me when I tell you I will love your son to the world’s end for he is my universe.
Let’s begin our new lives with a promise that not only because of your son, but we are together because of us, of the two individualistic women that we are, of the bond that we share like none other, of a love that is way beyond blood.
Your loving daughter in law.