Nobody wants to be in a abusive relationship, but sadly many around the world experience it. Most important aspect of abusive relationships is often people do not realize they are in one. It is important to detect the early signs and leave the partner when there is still time. If you feel any one point listed below is relatable, then you are in an abusive relationship. 

 

Verbal Abuse

If your partner calls you in derogatory names, even as joke, it means that they meant to hurt you and keep you in line. They humiliate you or put you down or make fun of you in front of other people. They may cover up their actions by saying that your are ‘too sensitive’ and that you are the one who needs to lighten up more.

 

Blame Game

If a person always blames everything on someone else or you, yes, you are in a abusive relationship. They make excuses for their behavior, try to blame others, and have difficulty apologizing. Whatever happens to your relationship, he claims that you are the responsible for the situation, then it’s time you thought about leaving the relationship.

 

Controlling

They try to control your actions and always want to know what you are doing. They treat you as if you are a kid and never let go of you. They are always critical of your behavior and want to correct you. You feel like you need their permission to go somewhere or make decisions. An abuser will try to make you feel guilty any time you exert your will and assert what is right for you.

 

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Extreme Jealously

Is your partner always jealous of you? A prominent trait of abusers is their jealousy. An abusive partner is often jealous of you, other people and even your dreams and goals. Their jealousy and rage over intangible things like your aspirations stem from the lack of control they feel over those aspects of your life.  They regularly point out your flaws and mistakes.

 

Isolates You

Early signs of a abusive relationship is they will try to isolate you. They will want everything hushed and will get angry if you disclose your relationship details to others. They will want you all to themselves and don’t understand that you need some time with yourself or that you need to with your family and friends. They accuse or blame you of things you know aren’t true.

 

Punishes You

It is not a sign of healthy relationship if your partner wants to punish you for something. Whatever it may be that you have done, if they feel the need to punish you, you need to leave immediately. An abuser is a grand manipulator and will sulk, threaten to leave, and emotionally punish you for not following their idea of how things should be.

 

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Expects A Servant

An emotional abuser goes through life feeling entitled to be treated like royalty, and wants you to be a willing servant. He or she expects you to do everything and will not help at all.

 

Instills Fear

If you feel fear around your partner or spouse, there is something very wrong. Abusers may try to intimidate you with violence, dominance and power tactics. They try to make you feel as though they are always right, and you are wrong. At times the abuser may appear to be apologetic and loving; the abuse begins again when the abuser feels they have your forgiveness.

 

Alcohol And Substance Abuse

Not all abusers use drugs or drink excessive alcohol, but many do. An addiction can lead to erratic  and inappropriate behavior. Substance abuse can be a gateway to emotional abuse and an unhealthy relationship.