Most women share common trigger points for stress. You probably are dealing with one or more of the following stress generators:
Work:
Decrease your anxiety at work; success is a two-edged sword. To reduce success related stress, learn to be less harsh on yourself. You don’t always have to be better than the rest. Give yourself mini-breaks and try stress-relieving exercises. Think about finding a new job where the stress level is not so high. If you have a problem with the boss or a co-worker, bring it out in the open in a non-confrontational way. Maybe another close friend or co-worker can help in resolving the issue.
Children:
All parents have a certain amount of stress because of their children at one time or another. It is important to maintain a healthy relationship with your child and at the same time give her your full support. The biggest hurdle many parents face is learning to let go. Let your children know that you trust them to make the right decisions. Remember, all you can really do is point them in the right direction. Trust the abilities of your children. As kids grow, hand over some of your chores. By doing so, you will ease your load and, at the same time, teach them responsibility. Keep in mind that children learn by example. Don’t have different rules for yourself and your children. Encourage cooperation and self-reliance.
Managing the family budget:
Ask any couple what they argue about most and invariably the answer will be money! A major component of family stress is the family budget. Have an annual and monthly budget and try to stick to it. Involve your older children in economic decisions so that they realize that every whim of theirs may not be fulfilled. Work with your husband to manage the family finances. Take decisions about how to allocate the money and stick to it.
Older and infirm family members:
Do you have an older family member staying with you? Taking care of them when they become infirm or indisposed can overburden an already tight schedule. Learn to work out a plan to manage time better. Don’t hesitate to ask for help – another relative or even a neighbor may be able to spare a few hours so you get some respite.
